Introducing your significant other to your family and friends can be a nerve-racking affair. If your significant other is a transgender woman, the tension can skyrocket to nearly palpable levels. If your family and friends are the puritanical types, introducing your transgender partner would definitely make you feel sweaty like a sinner in church. However, love conquers all; hence as a man, you have to step up to the podium and let the world know that your heart has chosen a transgender woman and nothing, or no one, will change your mind. Below are some tips that will help you in introducing your transgender woman to your family and friends:
Assure her of your love
Before introducing your transgender woman to your family, make sure you have assured her of your unconditional love for her. Tell her, no matter how cold your family and friends might react to the news, it won’t change how you feel about her, nor will it lead to a break up. You have to know that just because you have taken the step of introducing your transgender woman to your family and friends, they might not see you as brave. In fact, some will even tell you that you are gay. Whilst guaranteeing your transgender woman of your love and loyalty for her, you should also determine whether she is comfortable with you revealing your relationship to your family and friends.
The two of you should also sit down and plan how you will handle both negative and positive reactions from friends and family. It is important to have reasonable expectations of your family and friends reactions because you know them. If you have an insensitive friend or family member, warn your transgender woman early so that she will be prepared for insensitive comments. The two of you should also plan on how and when the “big reveal” will be made. If your family and friends are brutally judgmental, then it is advisable to make the announcement when your partner is not around. This ensures that their insensitivity does not hurt your transgender lover’s feelings.
Stand up for your lover
Every man who loves his transgender lady should always stand up for her. When you introduce your transgender woman to your friends and family, you can expect that they will have a variety of reactions because every person is different. However, you should not let anyone disrespect her in any way. It would be more effective to be honest and straightforward to people you deem ignorant and intolerant of your transgender woman. When you find someone you love, you are already a winner, and the prejudiced opinions of your family and friends should be secondary. Even if they don’t accept your transgender woman, they have no right to disrespect her in any way. If you truly love your transsexual lady, dropping an insensitive friend won’t be a problem.